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with Dr. Randi Gunther

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Innovative & Exciting Approaches To Every Facet Of Today's Relationship Dilemmas

Randi Gunther, Ph.D.
Author, Clinical Psychologist, & Marriage Counselor

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Welcome to this new web site devoted exclusively to offering all of the articles I’ve been writing for Psychology Today online over the past several years. As of 2022, there are over two-hundred, and a new one will appear every two weeks. They cover every facet of how relationships form, how they develop over time, and how and why they succeed or flounder.

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How Do I Know If Therapy Is the Right Choice for Me?

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How Do I Know If Therapy Is the Right Choice for Me?

Assess your situation, goals, and therapist fit to decide if therapy is right. Are you facing a crisis and feel you need some objective...

How to Tell If Talking Behind Someone's Back Is Helpful or Hurtful

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How to Tell If Talking Behind Someone's Back Is Helpful or Hurtful

When talking about others, even a well-intentioned plan to help may backfire. When two people share information about another who has not...

Nine Important Things You Should Know About Love

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Nine Important Things You Should Know About Love

We have a responsibility to love—it must be protected to survive. When I have asked people over the years what love means to them, I’ve...

8 Dangers of Empty Threats in a Relationship

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8 Dangers of Empty Threats in a Relationship

The eight most likely outcomes that empty threats can create. In the four-plus decades I’ve been working with couples, I have had the...

All My Relationships Fail

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All My Relationships Fail

People who are drowning in self-doubt often wonder if they're the problem. When patients come to me with this honest and sincere...

How I Have Failed Myself in Relationships

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How I Have Failed Myself in Relationships

As an intimate relationship begins to falter, its partners often struggle with the painful spiral of love’s descent into score-keeping,...

10 Behaviors That Can Push People Away

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10 Behaviors That Can Push People Away

Do you recognize any of those behaviors from your own relationships? Whether due to media advice or social pressures, most people strive...

What’s Your Baggage? – Authentic Dating Profiles

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What’s Your Baggage? – Authentic Dating Profiles

Over the last couple of decades, my patients have often brought me hopeful dating profiles to ask me for my responses before they further...

Do You Know Who You’re Dating?

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Do You Know Who You’re Dating?

7 successful ways to find "missing footprints When people grow up with the same friends and families that are intertwined, they leave...

Does Keeping You Mean Losing Me?

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Does Keeping You Mean Losing Me?

Are you in danger of losing yourself to stay in a relationship? In the early stages of a relationship, most people do everything they can...

Why Some People Are Drawn to Harmful Relationships

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Why Some People Are Drawn to Harmful Relationships

Love and pain can be a painful relationship combination. All relationship partners go through hard times and have to navigate them...

Could I Be the One Sabotaging My Relationships?

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Could I Be the One Sabotaging My Relationships?

Following are some of the most common underlying saboteurs. Many people ask me why most of their relationships begin with great promise...

A New Kind of Loneliness

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A New Kind of Loneliness

Understanding and processing the loss of meaningful connection. KEY POINTS It's not uncommon for people to experience loneliness and not...

Why Can’t I Get Over You?

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Why Can’t I Get Over You?

The deeper you love, the more you suffer if the relationship doesn’t work out. Falling in love is risky. The deeper you love, the more...

Are You Often the “Giver” in Your Intimate Relationships?

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Are You Often the “Giver” in Your Intimate Relationships?

Eight reasons why people end up being the primary givers. Over the past four decades, I have so often listened to couples sharing their...

I Love My Partner—But Could There Be Someone Better?

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I Love My Partner—But Could There Be Someone Better?

Most single people now have multiple options for dating adventures. Many of my patients have agonized over this kind of conflict. They’re...

What's Keeping Me in a Dying Relationship?

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What's Keeping Me in a Dying Relationship?

When attachments prolong suffering. By the time couples come to me for help, they have often tried hard on their own to make their...

Emotional Self-Blackmail

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Emotional Self-Blackmail

When compromising is self-destructive. It is natural for people to want to control their lives and meet their personal needs, and most...

Are You the Only One Trying to Fix Your Relationship?

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Are You the Only One Trying to Fix Your Relationship?

It is hard to change a relationship by yourself. I’ve spent more than four decades helping intimate couples turn their troubled...

How Self-Centered Pride Destroys Intimacy

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How Self-Centered Pride Destroys Intimacy

The Most Effective Antidote is Humility Healthy love is life-sustaining. For most people, their core foundation of personal value comes...

ABOUT

Dr. Randi Gunther has spent over four decades working with couples and individuals to help them build long-lasting and successful relationships. She has accumulated over 100,000 hours of face-to-face hours with her patients, along with reaching more than 14,000,000 people with her books, and articles. She practices in Southern California.

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Dr. Gunther is available by Zoom or Facetime

Email: randigunther@cox.net

Cell: 310-971-0228

Office: 2075 Palos Verdes Dr N, Lomita, CA 90717

Hours : By Appointment Only

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